Lets assume i cannot use vampiric embrace together witch chivalry anymore.
That leaves several options:
1) Drop chiv, use skillpoints on anatomy , tactics , parry or resist.
2) Don't use a form, but do 40 necro/ 60 spirit speak for curse weapon. Can keep chivalry then.
3) No chiv, 40 necro/60 spirit speak for peerless without slayer, you get more mana back, the damage you miss from eoo can be made up by spamming armor ignore, doublestrike or crushing blow.
Chivalry is generaly not needed in wraith form as the additional mana leech allows chaining of high damage weapon specials.
The only 2 widely used sampire weapons where stamina can be an issue and you need divine fury are double axe and heavy ornate axe. All others are either 1-handed or can be made fast enough with ssi so that stam is never really a problem. My fencer sampire uses maybe 10 npc refresh pots at a spawn, and divine fury only if i hit the wrong hotkey.
Its also not true that all other pvm templates are irrelevant. There is a good amount of high end stuff around where
A) you are better of if you not use vampiric embrace or curse weapon
B) it doesnt really matter
C) healing is absolutly required
D) ninjitsu beats bushido/parry
The only real problem with sampires is there power at champ spawns and in doom, and removing chivalry would not do anything to change that.
The only opinion i share with you is that necro/chivalry is role play wise an "odd" combination, but i do not really care about that because imho uo has absolutly nothing to do with ultima anymore.
I also do not get why people would laugh about someone who is pure paladin. You either know wrong people or play wrong server. Its true that some particular old school skill combination doesnt works so well atm, but thats a basic problem of all mmorpg's that you need to adapt.
I somehow think that you are facing a more general problem here, and that is that we got players that know game mechanics pretty well, and know how to use and DO USE every item in game and game mechanics to their advantage. And others that dont know much and use only 30% of the potential their char has.