I disagree, I have never been coddled but I don't see the need for SOME (the small minority of PvPers) to have the childish chats that they have in gen chat. Most people are using discord now days so why not take all of the bickering and name calling that the FEW of them do to Discord. They are obviously just doing chat pvp during those instances so its not like they are missing something when they tab to Discord. Quite frankly, some of them sound like they are on a grade school playground.
gen chat player 1: "Bro why u running like a little ! Go back to mommy and come back when u can pvp like a man"
gen chat player 2: " Whatchu talking about, stop the ganks and come and fight me one on one for a plat"
gcp1: "Why so u can run in ur house and hide like u always do? U suck so bad u should quit, bet u suck in rl too sitting in mommies basement"
gcp2: "offer stills stands.....but ur too much of a to fight me one on one without ur gank squad"
And this continues for a long time with others jumping in. It's annoying and not something that everyone wants or needs to see. They can do that in discord/icq/teamspeak/vent or whatever other means of communication. It has nothing to do with anyone being coddled or not being able to deal with life, its just that they left the elementary school playground a long time ago.
Hiya, people are all different, and you learn how to deal with them all.
As my best example for you, think about this question;
Is there one single possible thing that anyone could type ingame, that could possibly upset you?
The answer for me is no.
I hope it is for you.
You learn to filter, you learn to judge, understand people for what they are, you can ignore.
They may be your type, they may not be, you may want to hang out with them, you may not - but you should know how to deal with every type of person, do your thing, let them do theirs, and not let anything external affect you?
Even in the example you gave, there is a certain amount of humour going on in there, it may not be your style, but to others, they are probably giggling away at that.
{Just to add, a lot of what pvpers type, is provocation, designed to make the opponent lose focus at an important moment, so it has tactical reasons also, or just to get them back into a fight, it's just their way of doing things}.
It's like my two young boys, they have unlimited energy, they cause chaos, they fight, they mess around, but boy do you miss them when they aren't there.
Anyone that goes to the lengths of being offended, or affected, or finding that toxic, needs to actually go back to school, and learn how to filter it, develop a thicker skin, or find their way of going through life doing their thing, and ignoring the noise. That was ultimately, the whole point of school.
ps. And just to add, I'm sure you know, nothing changes when you leave school. Company life is the same, board-rooms are the same, politics are the same, sports environments, we never leave that playground whether you like it or not. This is all just human nature, UO just reflects it. I'm not religious, but one thing the bible completely gets, is human nature.