*footnote*
I didn't think manual calibration worked anymore up until today but then someone in my alliance said that she was able to see automap track her even though she doesn't run uoasssist which piqued my interest
so after some research, I found out how to get manual calibration working again
first, I tried trammel, then malas, then ilshenar but none of them worked ... so ... I went to the lost lands
to be exact, I typed "papua mint" to a crystal portal and then didn't move from the spot I came in
next, I double clicked the sextant in my pack ... noted the coordinates and then entered them into manual calibration - being very careful to select "The Lost Lands" from the dropdown list
manual calibration is only visible when the map has the border around it and the menu at the top that says "File Zoom Places Map UO Link Help" - it's under "UO" and it says "Calibrate"
even though it gave me an error message that calibration failed, it still worked and now tracks my character properly even without uoassist working and seems to remember after shutting automap down the restarting it
also, it tracks whichever client is topmost (which is a very nice feature) - unless 1 of the clients is running uoassist - in which case, I think it always tracks the uoassist client but I haven't tested that at all yet