To the OP play style is very much an opinion of works best for that inividual wether its the type of armour or skill set used. Since you have a simalar skill set to what I have been using I will tell you what I have been using.
Most of my armour I made by my crafters/imbuer and this was accomplised at the time when imbueing was introduced into the game. So i'm sure there are better pieces out there now such as brittle legandary pieces. Anyway I changed my guy from human to elf to take advantage of the bonus of makingwoodland armour which is then imbued with heartwood to have a chance at HCI or DI being applied. This took for ever to accomplish and i destroyed a lot of peices try to enhance but it was a challenge I was willing to take. This was before the had the tool you could buy to guarentee them from breaking. In any event the woodland armour gave me alot of flexiabilty as far as adding str dex, and mana and LMC to the armour and fitting resist in was like a puzzle to solve. I also placed skill properties str inc etc on my ring/bracelet. Along with buying the normal xtra's that most people use like the mace and shield glasses.I was able to accomplish these numbers may not be the best but they work and I am still trying to replace a ring i am currently using if i can find one with 10 ssi, 10 di, str and dex inc plus some skills i use. Not asking to much but I have found antigue ones but clean ones brittle are hard to find.
Anyway this is what i use if it helps you any great.
Str 143 HP 146 use purple pedal to increase +5 Dex 150 Stam 190 Int 24 Mana 76
HCI 43 but once I replace a couple heartwood pieces will be 45 just lack of time really
DCI 45 could be lower and higher resists but time element and the differance to me is not a big deal
LMC 40
SSI is just 10 but with high stam and fast weapon (bladed staff) and use devine fury when needed
DI is just 40 but I add 50 to weapon, hope to get a ring that could add the 10 more but not a deal breaker.
Resists are 70, 70,67,70,75
Ok temp plate varies depending on what I am fighting but this is the one I use most often.
Parry 60
Sword 120
Tactics 120
Bushido 120
Chivarly 120
Anat. 120
Resist 105 this I tend to change depending on what i'm fighting, like Necro toying with idea of Mystic or one of the new skills but have to investigate further
Bottom line for me typr of armour, ring/bracelet combo and skill sets and getting it to all come togather is a challenge. BTW I once killed a paragon balron like you did but this was like 5 years ago. What a battle took me like over 30 minutes the darn thing kept healing itself and redline me countless times, was a blast of a time. Tried a paragon ancient wyrm once LOL i was toasted and gave up that idea. There are some green colored balron type mobs on an island in the Ter Muer region east of the City and those are pretty difficult to kill. I Tried once but ran out of time, I have to go back and see if I can kill them they were pretty powerfull.
Good luck but I would not be overly concerned on having the best set up possible.
HCI 43 once I replace a couple heartwood armour pieces will be 45