Wraith form is a good choice. Try this:
melee 120
bushido 120
parry 120
tactics 100
spirit speak 110
necromancy 50
chivalry 80
Then you can add in 20 points to necromancy or tactics if you're capped at 720.
For equipment, you get off very well indeed since you don't need MR or mana leeching weapons. Life leeching weapons are also optional. Stamina leeching weapons are not.
Otherwise, all the standard needs are there. DCI is good, HCI is optional since you can always use lightning strike, stamina increase is good, dex increase is mandatory, damage increase is good.