For the OP and his friend... play where the playstyle suits you best.
For the Siege haters...
I came to Siege a two months ago. My character is in RoT for his primary skills. Now I can log in, skill gain for 30 minutes to an hour and max out my gain for those skills. After that I can farm wool, work on Compassion, etc. to advance myself in the community. Yes by God there is a real community on Siege.
Why did I come to Siege? Simple answer is for adventure. A more complex answer is to see a UO that is as close as possible to the UO I heard about for years after I came to UO during the early days of AoS. I've been Pk'd once and that was at a champ spawn. Thats one champ spawn out of several I've participated in completing. It was a hoot!!!
I'm having so much fun I collapsed my house on my former home shard and reopened a second account that had been closed for years. That character is in NEW. If not for Siege I'd be playing free cell until I could afford a new computer to try out a different game.
As far as casting gates... neither of my characters can gate. Good grief you can run from one end of the old lands to the other in under five minutes. I walk escorts from point to point and still have to wait on the timer when I deliver them.
Anyone being killed multiple times daily on Siege is either walking around Luna like its a mall and not the battleground that it is on Siege or doing something else that is unbelieveably dumb.
Would I love for Siege to lose all the arties, marties, smarties and all that junk??? Oh yeah I would very much. Not because someone else has it and I don't, I want it gone because to me its like pollution in a once crystal clear and clean spring.
Go Seige!!!!!!
Just my opinion, love it, hate it, disagree, agree... doesn't matter I'm not posting to debate in a forum. Thought it was about time for the voice of a 'young' Siege player to be heard and not just the Siege 'old hands'.