Hey there. I think there are several Discords that people are in. I know that UO has an official Discord. Most big guilds have their own Discord and I know there is an Atlantic pvp discord somewhere.. not sure if there is one dedicated to the shard though.
Did you ever find a house? I have a few spots near my houses that are open.. not huge spots but decent locations in Tram. Couple are waterside.. let me know if you'd be interested.