I think my post gave a different impression to what I meant hehe. I fully accept the risk in stepping up to heal another tamer's pet, or if I die trying to res someone else. Usually I laugh about watching all the health bars but my own, but I certainly don't place the responsibility in those situations on anyone but myself.Wenchy, you're a Good Samaritan. So am I, generally - I'll take 1/2 an hour out of my game-time to help strangers get a decent-stat GD, as long as they are polite.
That doesn't mean that being a Good Samaritan should not have risks. If you help out an ailing tamer, you're taking on that risk alongside him. Since no one forced you in the first place, you're responsible for the risk you take on.
The situations I'm discussing are like one the other night when I was firmly rooted by my pet while I contended with a stack of spawn as a champ bumped up a level. We were holding off all the spawn on that screen by ourselves quite well. Hard vetting, but greaters take a lot of punishment! Then another tamer arrived and got stuck in on the other side of the screen. I couldn't heal his pet because I was working full out to keep my own pet alive. Didn't get a chance to pull his bar off either. But rather than issue a warning, or try to pull his pet back, he and it just vanished. I hadn't had time to pull his bar off so I got precious little warning. I hid when my pet was clearly going to die and stealthed off before calling his ghost back to me.
In situations where I am that second tamer, I try and pull my pet and attached mobs back or warn the tamer. Then if my pet dies, it dies, but the spawn will lock onto me rather than that player. At the very least that tamer sees my pet die and knows trouble might follow. But if I am ganked myself, I try and die away from others. Not through being super virtuous, though I am generally kind in game, I just don't want anyone yelling at me because I got them killed.
I'm not wanting to force players to be nice. But as you can see from the suggestions I posted above, there are alternatives to logging out. The only time I've done it recently was when my drag went charging off into top level champ spawn after he died and I wasn't sure exactly which direction he ran in. But that's been in. I accept my pets die sometimes, but they gain skill fast enough that I don't get stressed by it. If anything annoys me it's the resurrect and instant die thing which afflicts pets. But just dying once just happens. I know that I can protect my pets by taking on easier situations, and if I go champing I fully expect things to get a bit crazy!I don't think, however, that should be hard-coded into the game. This game isn't, and in my opinion shouldn't be, about forcing players to make good choices. I'm not saying that luring and griefing is something that should be allowed... but I AM saying that, given the current set of rules we have, no one who is aware of these rules (and I have to assume you're more aware of these rules than most others) should complain when they're taken advantage of for selfish reasons.
I don't want anything added to the TOS at all. The only time I'd page on someone for griefing etc is if I saw they were really upsetting another player, even then that's more to stop them getting the satisfaction in upsetting someone. I personally enjoy when another character tries to get me killed, because having to outwit a player is quite a fun diversion.Griefing should be disallowed or paged to a GM as TOS violation. Selfish behavior should not. To behave selfishly or or not has to be OUR choice.
I guess my point is that while there are other options than simply logging out, all those options should be exhausted before you re-log. In the situations that Yalp described, there are a lot of other things I would do first, and without hesitation, before I logged out. I just raised the situation with the guy logging out beside another tamer to show that it can cause others and their pets to die if you take that course of action. When the alternative is that you need to retrain your pet and cough up a bit of insurance gold. To me, those aren't big losses.
Wenchy