Pretend you're the victim here, what could he, or she say, or do, for your forgiveness? In other words, would it take flowers, tears, new car, peom, etc. etc.?
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Been there done it, perhaps we all have been there done it that someone broke and betrayed a trust in the relationship.
Forgiveness may be accomplished but trust was shot all to hell, and may never be repairable.
Forgiveness is far easier to achieve..than trusting someone ever again, that shattered trust all to hell.
All that leads to is insecurity in trusting that person for the one that got hurt all trust in them is usually shattered. They may always wonder when will he or she cheat on me .........again ?? hurt me again ? lie to me again ?? They telling me truth or bs................HONESTY is something tantamount to garner trust in relationships and friendships, some folks will not settle for LESS nor put up with cheating lying or even just lack of respect for feelings, all is relatere to honesty, truth in relationships friendships etc. ie TRUST, it is something special that takes time to develop/grow for people, takes lots of time & mutual work with any relationship to a trusting one, even for friends; let alone something deeper be it our kids gf bf parents boss etc. once the trust is shattered sometimes there is no going back.
Forgiving is far easier than risking our heart, our emotions, our sanity and more trusting someone ever again, that busted trust all to hell. Males get hurt just as badly from cheatin females as visa versa..cuz one of the two didnt care enough to honor the other person with honesty and loyalty ie TRUST tossed out, all to hell.
It can be done, people do do that..but unless the one that violated that trust is mega willing to try to regain any tiny shred of trust back wont work.
A trust may take a matter of days weeks months or YEARS..for however long it took for that relationship to acquire that trust..once broken will take that long again or longer to ever trust that person ever again.
Once burnt twice shy...........forgiving that is the easy part ..trusting them ever again not to tear our heart emotions to shreds ever again..may never be possible to trust em again..sometimes it will depend on how badly/deeply the trust shattered hurt the one that got hurt ie cheated upon or lied to etc. shattering the trust of our significant other or a friend & even our own kids etc. makes for an insecure relationship for the one who's trust was shattered to bits. Most folks probably..won't stick around to have their feelings on a yo yo and their trust broke all to hell again!
Frankly there are no justifications for cheating, ya either go with that person, or yu EXIT the relationship first instead of cheat on em, which would be more honest than..fishing expeditions, while still in said relationship, with another.
Anyhow to repeat forgiving is easier, and less meaningful cuz ever trusting them again would take way longer or be now impossible to regain the trust that one had till they fubared it all and ruined trust !
All the flowers in the world can never rebuild............shattered trust ! That is something done by working to gain and to keep that bond of trust alive not breaking it.