I just happen to have a sense for these type of things. Yes Assia you are very helpful, you act in a fair manor and you have excellent knowledge of items in the game. What I am talking about is the sort of distain players get from a sort of elitist element. UO is a hard club to be part of sometimes and those that aren't able to thrive, they simply don't survive.
I will be honest I am not a rares collector so I don't know anywhere near as much as some people and no I did not attend the events like that which S_S mentions. I am a returning player at least 10 years away from the game. I missed out on a lot of the good times of UO in the intervening time span and I have had to work extremely hard to catch up and yes in some cases overtake players that have played for many years longer than I have, at least in terms of the competitive elements of the game.
People seem to think that the stuff that I have found has not been hard earned with excruciating determination, patience and will power to better my situation.
This IDOC that I found was in Fel it had fellow guild members looting it and telling me oh we knew him as if that gave them some special right over and above me.
If they really cared about that player they would not have let that house fall in the first place, they would not have let the friendship slip into disrepair like so many friendships have done.
I want to do well by my shard and by the people that have befriended me from any and all shards and if that means going sleepless nights to prove myself then so be it.
Do I think it sad that these houses are dropping, yes I do and I know people think that I do not care, I just care about money, well they haven't seen the other work I have put in to secure the future of this game, in whatever iteration or form it might be in.
That "we" as S_S understands it doesn't exist anymore, it was replaced by greed and utter selfishness and now that has gone we can look forward to UO moving forward the way we all hoped it would when I first started playing 15 years ago.