My sister and I have been dealing with the same thing. Our father was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia in 2017 and passed away January 10, 2022. Sis and I have no children so we were able to devote ourselves to Daddy's care. Please be careful with nursing homes. Daddy had a stroke in May that left him paralyzed on his left side. The hospital advised us to take him to a nursing home to rehab. Our first choice called us 24 hours before he was to be released from the hospital to tell us they wouldn't take him. We had 24hrs to find another place. We chose one close to the family home. It turned into a nightmare. They lied to us. They neglected Daddy, refusing to bath him, shave him, or change him leaving him to sit in his own filth. Sis and I raised HELL with them. We reported them to every state regulatory agency we could. Unfortunately Oklahoma is 48th out of 50 states in care for the elderly and quite possibly #1 in corruption. We actually had the jerk from adult protective services (APS) tell us that Daddy had the right to CHOOSE to be dirty and not to be changed. Sis unloaded on him! She told him that, that was grade A fertilizer and he was a worthless dung heap of a human being to allow helpless elderly people to suffer like that. She even had the Chutzpah to ask him how much he was being paid off to turn a blind eye to the neglect and suffering of the elderly. We got dad out of there, but he was already in decline. had pressure sores on his tailbone and heels. You can get help from the fed, don't let them B.S. you. Tell them she is dependent on you and she is HOMELESS. Daddy still had his home and some retirement. There is a lot of help out there you have really got to hunt for it. You will be turned down the first time SO DON'T GIVE UP! Also if you mom served in the Military there is VA aid available. Be warned the VA is slower than molasses in January. Anything we can do to help you let us know. We've walk the long sad, road. Now we've said Goodbye to Daddy and we've start on the road of grief. We were already walking this road as we lost Mama in 2020 to congestive Heart failure. Now it seems doubly hard and lonely realizing Sis and I are all we have left in the world.