"Would it be better to put 115 into parry or bushido?"
Niether. I'd suggest you drop both Tactics and Anatomy to 90 and set your template up like this:
120 swords
120 parry
120 bushido
90 anant
90 tactics
90 healing
70 chiv
You will fail occassionally at curing level 6 poison, and rezzing others may take a bit of time, but with this setup, you're maximizing both offense and defense. Add in 45% DCI and as much HCI as you can get, and even the high end stuff will have a hard time hitting you. If you're not going to go with Necro for Vamp form, then use weps with ML, LL, SL, SSI & DI. Use Mace & Shield glasses for HLD. Just as a tip, you can get 35% DCI from Fey Leggings & Heart of the Lion, which are both Ilsh minors, so are very inexpensive. The rest you can make up with jewels. I'd suggest trying to get up to 55% DCI so that when you cast Divine Fury and get hit with the -10% DCI from it, you'll still be at max DCI.