Vent is helpful, yes. So is sparring with someone who really knows their stuff. I don't pvp, my husband does, so I've learnt a fair bit watching him and listening to him. I know, mostly, who the good players are and who the cheats are and who the arses are. Sadly, on Europa, nature seems to have been fairly bountiful with those.
Folks complain that Fel is dead, no one goes there, etc etc etc. But they don't seem to be able to join the dots and see that it's the behaviour of more than few players over there that's keeping people away. It's all very well dying to skill, but when the guy who's just killed you and is currently shooting his mouth off has cheated to beat you, why bother? Easier to just stick to Tram. Sure, you're still gonna die, but you don't have to put up with someone who has the mentality and literacy skills of your average 8yr old bully to boot. I play to get away from my kids, not put up with other peoples badly behaved ones or, worse yet, 40yr old kids. No ta!