There is still hope, that it will be better soon.
Stratics gave us a little help with their new buildforums, you can find the Siege guilds there.
http://stratics.com/community/guilds/ or click Guilds in top bar.
Mesanna and her team Broadsword will give us a new public around august and bring back MyUO, so we again can find chars and guilds there.
The new public will include some nice stuff like global loot update and a PvP system to replace faction.
We also got vendor seach, that make it easier to find items you need.
I hope this will bring us new players and bring back old players.